This one was H.A.R.D for me... When Kathleen said she wanted to have a wedding china challenge, at first I was excited.....then...reality set in...That lovely wedding china that I got in 1973 was from a marriage that ended in divorce..hmmm....what to do...I most certainly do NOT celebrate that wedding..even thought I still love the china I picked out as a young twenty year old.. I pulled it out weeks ago and set the table, and then..I waited..and waited. pondering what to do about this challenge. whether to even join in the challenge.
When I married my present husband, we eloped and their was no big wedding..the focus this time was on marriage, not wedding.... There were no trips to the jewelry store to pick out china, crystal, and silver.. No bridal registries, etc...so there is no 'official wedding china'...
I finally decided this morning..what the heck..it is what it is... I love this china, I do NOT love my first wedding or my first marriage... I do not in any way want to dishonor the man I am married to now. He is my forever husband .....life threw me a curve ball...
and now, I consider this china SPOILS OF WAR!!
That was a very long introduction to this wedding china post...Thank you Kathleen for making me consider and rethink some issues in my life....wink, wink
That dried rose is there because what once was alive is now dead....but I am choosing to see the beauty even in that dead marriage...this china lives on and we still enjoy the beauty of these plates...
It is Provencal by Royal Doulton and was special ordered from England just for me...nothing like a small town jewelry store to be so personal..
I chose timeless Chantilly by Gorham for my sterling..
The stemware is Antique by Lenox.. I also chose a fine crystal by Wallace but this one matches these plates... Every bride was expected to have a fine china, crystal, and sterling and then the everyday china, crystal, and silver....This was my everyday china and crystal...
Now, here is the twist and turn...the plate on the left is Harrison Rose by Haviland and belonged to my paternal Grandmother.It was what I used as my 'fine china' ..I sometimes regret not choosing the pattern of fine china that the lady who owned the jewelry store talked me out of getting...something about hindsight and 20/20.. LOL One day I might buy it anyway..but I doubt it...
I have a small collection of cake toppers..the romantic in me...
And these lace bells...ahhh, yes..just thinking about them makes me tear up... They were handmade by my Grandmother Lewis in 1948 for my parents wedding reception.. Just holding them and knowing how much work and love and artistic effort she put into the decorations for her only son's (my Daddy's) wedding reception. They had eloped so there was no big wedding but there was a BIG reception later... I treasure these little bells made from lace and glitter and satin ribbons with a little wooden ball for the clapper...
This is the bride and groom that reminds me the most of me and my husband. If we ever redo our vows, I will use this one...
Well, I made it to the end of this post and so did you....Thank you for hanging in there...Believe me, I would have written my story differently..all roses and no thorns...but that is not how my life has been..there have been thorns and I am sure there will be more..BUT..I have decided to smell the roses anyway even if there are thorns.. Just because it has been hard at times, I still press on..and on...and on....a lot of life is still left to live.....
Thank you all for being my friends...it means a lot..Knowing you all are there helped me to press on and get this post about wedding china done..even if it is a bittersweet part of my life...
China----good
Wedding----not
Love, Mona
I am joining
Kathleen's wedding china challenge
Tablescape Thursday
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