Sunday, May 1, 2011

Mayday, Mayday....

There are times and seasons in life that the best part of them is this...they are OVER!  Today marks just one of those very long and barren seasons for us..we paid our very last child support payment today...this has been going on for 16 years...it has been so hard to finish....I can hardly believe the time has come for us to finish..we finished well..we paid it all even when the economy did what it did and we were without a steady paycheck..


my husband is the poster child for an UNdeadbeat Dad.....and this was all done in the face of very adverse circumstances...he has not seen his daughter in more than 4 years...we have a severe case of parental alienation.....she wanted her way..she wanted us to just pay her the money and go away...for 10 years we hung on and then we let her have her way..



I have so many thoughts about our unjust court system and lawyers and judges that do not think about what they are doing to tear apart a family...we have experienced our share...a mother should not be able to accept child support without allowing the father to participate in the child's life.....we did our part and she did NOT....and the courts could not care less.....we have an unjust court system when it comes to family law..

After today, we are DONE!!!!!!!  I mean DONE!!!!  our hope is that one day this child we supported with no feedback from her mother..will come around..maybe, just maybe..but she is now an adult and it is her choice whether she wants to know our side or not...it is a great travesty when a child is told and convinced that she does not need her father in her life..especially when he is a man of such good character.....



so after this is all said and done, we forgive and we remember the good times and we move on..and we are so very glad that we have gotten to the end of this thing that has been done against us..against our will.....but we persevered and we finished this part of our race.....

 Now the road is unending...the view is unobstructed...the future is bright...so bright that we need shades.....
I am thankful if you were able to stick it out and read this one..  say a prayer for us...we have had a hard row to hoe but now it is time for planting......the end is sometimes so very sweet......

2 comments:

  1. ...it's my first time reading your blog - I love it. Even though I understand that things are not always easy, you convey a sense of clarity, calm and positiveness that will really help me get through the day! Kersti

    ReplyDelete
  2. enjoyed reading and thanks for sharing. i'm the opposite, i can count how many times my ex has had them for the night the past two years on my ten fingers. at first, i felt he needed the space to get it together. he replaced the space with a permanent other;
    without getting it together, he never did the work. long story short, he will never take ownership for his actions and the children will suffer. glad yours did, and she most definetely will eventually realize what a great father/ and mother figure she has in you. hope she doesn't move in permanetely! ha ha!

    ReplyDelete